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James Goen's avatar

I don't know. Reading this makes me realize that there is a big gulf of divergence of what is occurring at a megachurch and what is occurring in activist political groups.

First of all there is the shift of focus, the megachurch is actively focused on trying to make the person feel welcomed and included as part of its core ethos. If there is an agenda, the agenda is hidden behind issues that are meant to serve the people in the community.

Activist groups are often focused on trying to make progressive change and as a result are usually focused not on the people that are joining the cause but on trying to change a power structure. Learning from the megachurch the activist groups should need to take a different approach and look to try to serve the people who are joining the cause and not simply look for people to join their cause. It's a significant difference.

A core part of this is the ethos of some of the activist groups, the ethos is about trying to change a system to serve the people they are advocating for, vice building a system that is actively serving the people they are advocating for.

As a result a lot of left-leaning activism can become a bit disembodied and become overly cerebral in its approach causing an impact with the relationality. The megachurch does the exact opposite though, it focuses heavily on trying to reinforce relationality but individuality is what is sacrificed in the process.

I think in order to really learn lessons from megachurches there is a need to really develop an ethic of showing care to the people who are part of the effort and not just advocate for state-based systems that will do the care on their behalf.

Kara's avatar

I just love a good "let's get specific" take. In any arena. Which is also why I want to expand the conversation on "family friendly." What I've observed about the megachurch in my community is they create a space for people with young kids to be in community with one another. And man, as a mom of a 7 and 3 year old, I REALLY wish I could find that for my family in ways that align closer to our values. We are striving to build it for ourselves, and those relationships absolutely matter to our civic lives, but park dates and pizza nights are not the same as organizing around shared purpose.

So let's talk about what "family friendly" means. Are my kids invited because you are "doing the right thing" by being inclusive of parents and know we can't show up if we can't bring them? Will there be space to run around while we talk about boring things or do I need to hope a book or some travel toys will keep them quietly entertained? Offering childcare is great, in theory. I can't guarantee my three year old is going to let me leave them with a stranger for the night (actually I can kind of guarantee she won't). Help me prepare my kids - Will they be nearby or in a completely separate room? Can we come meet the people watching them a little early? If it's an ongoing meeting, about how many people tend to come? Will there be 4 kids or 20? What kinds of toys or activities are they going to be doing?

I'm saying this as someone whose PTO offers childcare - it did nothing to move the needle on participation and nobody took us up on the offer (I 100% think we weren't clear enough in what that meant.) I know this is a lot to ask. I also know that as long as parenting and organizing are happening in mostly separate places, a whole lot of people are going to be left out. I'm desperate for creative and innovative solutions here.

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